Friday, November 16, 2012

Tao of Psychology Part 2: NLP

 11/18/2012: Added pdf link.

When I first read about neuro-linguistic programming (NLP) I was pretty skeptical. However, Milton Erickson had spoken well of its founders and I figured if he had approved of it then it was at least worth looking into. In retrospect my opinion is a bit mixed, but overall I think NLP contributes a good deal both towards understanding Erickson's work better, and to psychology in general.

Early Development

In the 1970s, Richard Bandler and John Grinder, under the supervision of Gregory Bateson, began working on a project to study various successful therapists and try to identify the important aspects of their technique. Their first subject was Fritz Perls, from which they derived the "meta model". Later they studied Virginia Satir and Milton Erickson. From this work, they developed what would later be known as NLP.

Their work was heavily influenced by both Gregory Bateson and Noam Chomsky, with an emphasis on systems modeling and a strong recognition of the fact that thoughts and understanding are merely information.

They developed several fundamental principles at this time which became the foundation of future work, some of the most important include:
-The map is not the territory.
-The mind and body are part of a single inseparable system.
-Choice (or more choice) is better than not having choices.
-The meaning of your communication is what the listener hears (assuming honesty). In other words, it is the responsibility of the communicator to ensure that they are understood in the way that they intend.
-If what you're doing isn't working, do something else. (alternately, the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result)

Further Work

Soon the NLP movement gained momentum, and many other people joined Richard and John in doing further research and developing the model. These included Robert Dilts, Judith DeLozier, Steve and Connirae Andreas and others. During this time many new ideas were incorporated into NLP, which expanded a great deal and became a basic model of the mechanics of thought.

Representational Modalities

One thing that they noted was that we think through our senses. Namely Visual, Auditory, Kinesthetic, Olfactory and Gustatory. These they called "modalities". Verbal is sometimes included as "Auditory: digital", and emotions are also sometimes considered as a meta category.

They noted that people generally have a most-used modality, which is reflected in how a person speaks and refers to things. The most obvious cases would be a person saying "I see", versus "I hear you" or "I feel that", however it can also be much more subtle than that.

We use "representation" in order to reason and make sense of things. For example, considering the following sentence(s):

Yesterday I was eating some fresh, juicy strawberries in my garden when a pink elephant with blue polka dots chased a yellow cat through my flower bed. It was a stomping, shrieking racket, and bits of flowers were left scattered all over.
In order to make sense of that statement, you have to imagine eating strawberries, seeing a pink elephant, bits of scattered flowers and so on.

 

"Sub-modalities"

Along with the modalities, they also noticed that each could have a number of modifiers associated with it. It turns out these modifiers, which they called 'sub-modalities', shared commonalities between the modalities. These include location, movement, intensity, shape, number, symmetry and texture. Originally it was thought that the 'sub-modalities' were like building blocks from which experiences were built, and from which new experiences could be built. This changed later, however, which I'll discuss further on.

Anchoring

The process of association is ubiquitous both in normal thought and in mental illness. Mental states can be linked to certain external cues, telling us when to feel happy, sad, angry and so on, and they can also be linked to other mental states, for example associating "psychology" with "Milton Erickson, NLP, hpynosis" and so on. They called the process of forming associations "anchoring". An anchor can literally be anything you can think about - a tone of voice, a facial expression, a touch, the sight of an object, person, place or situation, and so on.

They found that anchors can be manipulated in all kinds of interesting ways. One way, which they called "sliding anchors" was used often by Erickson. For example, he might start counting from 1 to 20 as a person went into a trance, and as his counting became associated with their state, he could then use the numbers to control the person's state. By saying "one" he could wake them up, for instance, or by saying "twenty" take them into a deep trance. Saying "twenty-one" would then lead to an even deeper trance, and skipping numbers could change their state more rapidly than counting one at a time.

Another thing that can be done with anchors is what they call "collapsing anchors", which is also equivalent to "parts integration". In this case, a person might be torn between two seemingly conflicting states or choices. By anchoring each of the conflicting states, then triggering both anchors either at the same time or in rapid succession, they found the states integrated and the conflict would resolve itself. Collapsing anchors can be used in other interesting ways, which I'll touch on later.

Dissociation

Dissociation is very much the opposite of anchoring. With dissociation, two things are made separate and exclusive. This might include conflicting plans or beliefs, but it's also associated with a number of unusual phenomena related to trance. This includes amnesia, negative hallucination (not seeing something that is there, also "selective hearing"), and ideomotor activity.

 

Strategies

In putting together the basic phenomena, they found that when people solve everyday problems, as well as when they experience mental distress, they use patterns of the different phenomena in a certain order in order to invoke certain states, helpful or problematic alike. They found that by making small changes to a problem strategy, they could help the person to break out of that pattern. Conversely, they found that by studying the strategy used by experts, they could learn to reproduce (some of) the capabilities of those experts, and teach them to others. Robert Dilts's magnum opus, "Strategies of Genius" details the strategies of many of history's geniuses, which he inferred by studying their writings. I highly recommend giving it a read.

Reframing

One of the techniques they derived from Milton Erickson they called "reframing". Very often a person's problem arises not from the situations they face, but rather from the meaning they give to those situations. By changing the implied meaning of an experience, they found that many problems lost the characteristics of being problems. "Lemons to lemonade", if you will.

Pacing and Leading

Both for hypnotic induction and successful therapy, it is necessary for the therapist to form a relationship of trust and understanding with the client. The longer this takes, the longer therapy takes. Milton Erickson, however, could establish such a relationship often in the first session. His techniques for doing this became known as "pacing and leading". This is achieved by mirroring the client's preferred modality, their gestures (to some extent), by using or following their figured of speech, by matching their breathing, or simply by maintaining an engaging conversation. By demonstrating to the client that you understand their model of the world, you can then proceed to introduce changes to that model, to break up their rigid conscious pattern or to induce a trance.

 

Observation

Another important aspect of Milton Erickson's technique, and possibly the most important aspect, was his ability to observe people very closely and to pick up on minute changes in their inner state. He would watch things like pupil dilation, muscle tension and relaxation, changes in skin color, changes in pulse or breathing, subvocalizations and other subtle things which he could only be implicitly aware of. It was only by keen observation that he was able to note changes in his clients, and respond appropriately.

 

Patterns

One of the things which NLP is most well known for is 'patterns'. Basically, 'patterns' are therapeutic techniques which, at least in theory, can be used to solve various problems given an appropriate choice of pattern. The most well known of these is the "10 minute phobia cure". Unfortunately for NLP, most of the 'patterns' turned out to be less useful than the distinctions listed above, and while there was much talk about figuring out a framework to determine how to know when to use a particular pattern, nothing ever materialized to fill this void in spite of many attempts.

"NLP 2.0"

In spite of the many interesting and useful distinctions that were made in NLP regarding the mechanics of thought and learning, there continued to be a large gap between the theory and the practice. NLP lacked any overarching theoretical framework which could act as a guide for therapy, and the patterns tended to be overly rigid and difficult to apply appropriately. Disagreements, both legal and theoretical, began breaking out in the NLP community. Eventually they all agreed to disagree, which led to the formation of a diversity of proposals for "NLP 2.0", in various attempts to consolidate and reconcile the previous work and to add new discoveries to the heap. No such "unified theory" has yet been accepted by the community in general, although many of the proposed theories have offered new insights and techniques.

Design Human Engineering & Neuro Hypnotic Repatterning

After the split, Richard Bandler formed his own school, focusing on two sets of tehniques called "Design Human Engineering" and "Neuro Hypnotic Repatterning". His school currently operates, and focuses on using hypnosis and building new states from scratch using sub-modalities. I won't say much more about it, but people have taken the course comment that the only thing they really get out of it is that they develop an "inner place for doing inner work".

"The New Code"

John Grinder wrote two major books after the split, "Turtles All the Way Down" and "Whispering in the Wind" which he wrote with Judith DeLozier. "Turtles" is a guide to managing inner states for accomplishing various tasks, and came off as fairly dark and very dissociative. "Whispering in the Wind" was supposedly the magnum opus for Grinder's "New Code of NLP", but was mostly apologetic and didn't offer much insight as to how NLP could be improved.

Grinder currently teaches in the UK, where NLP is accepted as a mainstream school of psychology. Sadly, I can't say much good about his practice or his instructors. You can see one of his instructors, Michael Carroll, failing to heed one of the most basic tenants of NLP (if what you're doing isn't working, do something else) not once, but twice in the official videos at NLP Academy (one two). One of his other instructors, Stephen Gilligan, I can only describe as "that creepy woo-woo guy". While I have nothing personal against any of them, I think it's extremely important for a therapist, let alone someone teaching therapists, that they should be at least basically mentally healthy themselves. For teaching in general, being able to demonstrate what you're teaching is equally important, but I haven't seen them live up to either count, and that's bad news for their many students, and for the legitimacy of NLP in general.

John did make an interesting observation that the conscious and unconscious can't be 'integrated' like other states can, but can learn to interact and work together effectively. I had the opportunity to test this with a member of the ASCH. In a session after he had induced a deep trance, I had him collapse the anchors he had set for the waking state and trance state. It felt like he pulled an inner guitar string tight, then another string, and wrapped it around the first before letting them snap back into position. That and a flash of the sort of blurry darkness that characterizes deep trance, and then after a minute of inner stirring I settled in a light trance, in which consciousness can affect communication with the unconscious. I believe it supports John's hypothesis.

The Meta-States Model & Neuro-Semantics

Two relatively new names on the NLP scene, L Michael Hall and Bob Bodenhamer are preachers turned NLP instructors who came up with their own model to explain some contradictory things they observed in relation to the original. They noted that what had been called "sub-modalities" actually had "metaphorical" significance, and were not the atomic building blocks that Richard Bandler had assumed them to be. They found that the same also applied to the Patterns, implying that as long as the metaphorical-emotional content was maintained, it should be possible to creatively use the patterns creatively, even to the point of changing them to be unrecognizable from the originals.

While this insight is indeed important, the meta-states model is extremely circular to the point of headache without actually explaining much of anything new. They failed - I thought - to integrate their findings in any meaningful way, or to provide anything that might unify the still-disjoint theories of NLP.

Hall's techniques for dealing with problem states, which he dubs "Dragon Slaying", also rely heavily on the meta-model. I haven't really mentioned much about it, but suffice it to say that it's extremely irritating and passively insults your intelligence. It's also a very inefficient and time consuming way to deal with psychological problems, if it works at all.

They come to the conclusion that the techniques of NLP are only suitable for simple problems like nail biting or a simple phobia, but ineffective for more complex conditions like general anxiety or complex trauma. I agree, but I can't say they managed to improve anything in that area.

A Recursive Approach

In the now-defunct NLP Anchor Point magazine, I ran across a series of articles that was based around Douglas Hofstadter's book "Godel, Escher, Bach" which sounded very interesting. So, I decided to pick up a copy of GEB and see what that was all about. I can say that it was an excellent and entertaining introduction to number theory, and touches on some fascinating things related to incompleteness and uncertainty, but I cannot say that I found it useful for psychology. Hofstadter's sequel, "I am a strange loop", was more specifically focused on psychology but I found it to focus on the more shallow and meaningless aspects of being human - things like "what kind of music do you like?" or "what's your favorite food?". IAASL also wasn't written in the highly artistic style which made GEB such a great book. Overall, at least for psychology, I found it to be a dead end.

Humanity in Therapy

Later I ran across a few more articles in anchor point which piqued my curiosity. A guy by the name of Richard Bolstad had written several articles with similar themes, one calling for bringing the human element back into therapy, one on Ghandi, and one on near-death experiences (which you can read for free). By that point I had already grown sick of the mechanistic way in which NLP practitioners tend to operate, and moreso with their money-centric (MY money centric) attitudes, and the direction Dr. Bolstad was taking struck a deep chord with me. Something told me he had the right idea, and so I decided to delve deeper into the subject of spirituality and NDEs to see if I couldn't dig up any clues that could put things into perspective, and perhaps reveal the "missing link" needed to unify the NLP framework.

For now that's all I will say, but I'll be discussing the results of my research much more over the next few articles.

Links:
"The User's Manual for the Brain: The Complete Manual for Neuro-Linguistic Programming Practitioner Certification" by L Michael Hall & Bob Bodenhamer (scribd)

Wednesday, November 14, 2012

Tao of Psychology Part 1: Milton Erickson

 Update 11/17/2012: Added a quote and some video links.
11/18/2012: Added some pdf links!

When I first took an interest in psychology, most of what I came across was very typical of the mainstream. Label people with these diseases, categorize them as this or that "personality" and work with them to establish "healthy self-esteem" or whatever criterion a particular school might consider desirable. Failing that, there's at least one drug for every complaint a psychiatrist might make about a patient. All of that was interesting in an intellectual, scientific sort of way (although in retrospect I wouldn't call any modern psychological research "science") but in practical terms none of the popular therapies really have anything (or at least not much) to offer. They spend all their time analyzing their clients and telling them how they should live, and none of their time actually observing or interacting in a meaningful way.

Then I came across NLP and Hypnosis, which changed the way I thought about psychology forever. Both in hypnosis and NLP, the name Milton H Erickson seemed to be a common theme, so I decided to see for myself just what he was about and whether he was as great as people were saying he was. I was not disappointed.

Milton Erickson studied hypnosis and trance before hypnosis had even become an accepted field of study within psychology. Even after hypnosis became mainstream, Erickson's view of hypnosis and trance still differed considerably from the accepted norm. So too did his method of therapy, and the results he achieved were beyond anything that anyone else even thought possible.

Erickson considered trance to be a normal, everyday occurrence that virtually everyone experienced frequently without realizing it. When you space out momentarily in a conversation, that's a trance. When you're driving and start thinking about something and driving becomes an automatic task, that's a trance. When two lovers become entangled within their own bubble of reality and zone everything else out, that's a trance. He called these "common trance" to distinguish them from the more profound forms that he was able to induce purposefully, and very often he would give examples just like these to begin an induction.

Discussing Dr. Erickson's hypnotic technique in any detail would require volumes (which have already been written), so I want to focus here more on his general approach to therapy, and how it differed from most all other therapies before or since.

Dr. Erickson considered therapy to be something that the client did for himself, with the therapist only providing suggestions that the client could follow in order to accomplish his own ends. He never took the attitude that he was telling his clients what they should do, and vocalized his opinion that taking that attitude was never helpful for the client and in fact insulted their inherent capacities. Straight from the horse's mouth:
Now, too much has been written and said and done about the reeducation of the neurotic and the psychotic and the maladjusted personality. As if anybody could really tell any one person how to think and how to feel and how to react to any given situation. Everybody reacts differently, according to his own background of personal experience.

He did not view trance as a state of increased susceptibility to suggestion (in fact he found the opposite to be true in many ways), nor did he believe trance to prevent one from resisting suggestions (his experiments demonstrated otherwise). Instead he saw trance as a state of intense inner concentration in which a person could learn by direct experience. His suggestions were merely a tool to help people learn to use hypnotic phenomena to solve their inner or outer problems. The result is that people who he had helped not only got relief from the problem they came to him for, but also often learned to solve other problems for themselves, or to use hypnotic phenomena to enhance their abilities in other ways.

As an example, one of his former students suffered a blow to the head by a falling brick just days before he was scheduled to give a speech at a conference he was attending. He recounts that he was able to negate the pain of the injury so that the doctors were able to work without anesthetic, and in spite of the fact that the doctors had claimed weeks of healing time, he was able to heal quickly enough to manage to speak at the conference without trouble. His doctors could not believe that he could have healed as quickly as he did. He also noted that Erickson had never given him any specific suggestions that he should do, or be able to do any of those things.

Much of what Dr. Erickson was able to do he attributed to what he called "anticipated response". While what he meant by that could really be interpreted in three ways, the main thread between them was that he could direct his own belief in order to direct the client more effectively. In some cases this might mean speaking with deliberate uncertainty in order to cause the client to question themselves. Sometimes this meant speaking with absolute certainty (especially when giving positive suggestions) so that the client, too, will believe that something will happen. At other times, this would mean that Milton would go into a trance first (which was common) and sort of "share" in the hypnotic experience, hallucinating whatever it was that he intended the client to hallucinate, or at least giving the distinct impression that he was.

Dr. Erickson took a very "natural" approach to therapy. More often than not, he would go into a trance himself and allow his unconscious to respond to his clients in real time without needing to think about what he was doing. He always had an underlying attitude that his clients could and would achieve the change that they wanted or required. If his clients would not believe in themselves, he would believe for them (although not in an obvious or obnoxious way). This is something which I think is absolutely required for successful therapy, and sadly something which the vast majority of therapists today lack.

Unfortunately his legacy organization, the American Society of Clinical Hypnosis, apparently has no requirement for reading anything he has ever written. They seem to be more focused on pushing new books by new authors, and while they seem to be capable enough at inducing trance, they completely lack the most important characteristics of Erickson's own success with actual therapy. He inspired a number of other schools of therapy, however, including brief therapy and neuro-linguistic programming (NLP).

In part 2 of this series, I'll talk a bit more about NLP. NLP offers a lot in the way of understanding Erickson's hypnotic techniques (but not his approach to therapy) and provides a better understanding of the mechanics of thought.

Some links:
A hypnosis demonstration with Richard Bandler. (aka Richard Bandler behaving deplorably)

"Hypnosis Without Trance" - James Tripp, uses semi-ericksonian technique.

"Hypnotherapy, an Exploratory Casebook" with Ernest Rossi (free pdf)
"Patterns of the Hypnotic Techniques of Milton Erickson, Volume I" by Richard Bandler and John Grinder (free pdf)

Tuesday, November 6, 2012

Manifesto

In the modern developed world everyone is expected to live the same way. Go to school, do everything the teacher tells you to do, go to college, get a degree, get a job, get married, have kids, retire and then vegetate in a retirement home on your kids' money until the Alzheimer's finishes eating your brain. You learn that authorities are always right, that obedience and loyalty are the most important values, and that everything is a competition and if you "aren't good enough" then you'll never succeed (but if you try too hard then you're a loser).

Additionally, you're expected to dedicate your life to an employer who will treat you as disposable in return, to dedicate your life to a spouse who may also treat you as disposable in return, to present the appearance that everything in your life is always perfect, and to obsess over money and things and to show them off to everyone else (or be a loser). Whether or not you're actually happy is irrelevant; success is all about making someone else jealous, however you manage to accomplish that (which is why idols and movie stars are considered to be important people in modern culture).

Of course, nobody is happy in the modern developed world because of this. They may convince themselves that they are, citing other people's jealousy as 'evidence', but ultimately that amounts to piss in the wind at the end of the day. Jealousy is an ugly emotion and happiness could never possibly result from it. Nor can happiness be bought with money or favors or popularity.

On the other hand, you're basically left with three choices. The first is to take drugs and try and forget that you're unhappy. The second is to go to a psychiatrist and get prescribed drugs to forget that you're unhappy. The third is to join a cult where you're told to "believe and pray" and pretend that you're not unhappy. Of course, there is also suicide or "going postal", but for most people those are not particularly acceptable answers.

And so our society is filled with racism, sexism, religious hatred, violence, war, government plundering and meaningless garbage (such as the entire city of Las Vegas). This has happened because we do not understand ourselves, and because we do not really try to understand ourselves (it's easier just to pretend and then blame others for your own shortcomings, after all). A person who doesn't understand themselves not only can't be happy, they also can't be free, yet every human is born free and with the capacity and desire to be happy.

This blog is dedicated to exploring psychology, philosophy and spirituality, without dogma or fluffy "let's all just love each other" bullshit, for the purpose of helping people to become freer and happier in their daily lives through better understanding themselves and others, because human civilization cannot continue to survive and develop when most "adults" in society have the emotional maturity of a tantrum-throwing five-year-old.